This post is intended to host an open discussion among people who have rape fantasies. Please read all of the instructions before clicking the cut.

1. Consider this a trigger warning. This post and the comments will discuss rape fantasy. If this is potentially trigger-y or even just unpleasant for you, please pass it on by.

2. This is a post for people with rape fantasies. I'm requesting that people who do not have such fantasies refrain from commenting. Even if you are open-minded and not at all judgmental, do not comment. If I suss out that a commenter does not have rape fantasies I will ask them to stop commenting. You are welcome to read the discussion, however.

3. Absolutely no shaming comments. The fact that some people have rape fantasies is not up for debate. It's not something that people can switch off willingly. Arguing with them about it is nonsensical and only results in making people feel guilty for something they cannot control. Don't do it. Shaming comments will be deleted without warning. Aside from spam, I've never actually deleted comments from my LJ, but this is a special type of post intended to be a safe place for people with rape fantasies. I will be modding with a heavy hand here.

4. I'm the final arbiter of what constitutes as "shaming comment". If I delete a comment of yours that you didn't think was shaming, you're free to PM me about it. You're not free to repost the comment. Doing so will result in escalated action by me.

5. Anonymous comments are allowed.

6. Though this is a post on rape fantasy, explicit misogynistic or victim-blame-y comments are not acceptable. You can talk about rape fantasies you have without perpetuating rape culture. If any discussion veers into rape culture territory, I will freeze the threads.

7. If this post goes wonky, I'm fully prepared to lock it down and thumb my nose at all the wrongdoers. It'll make me cranky, though. Don't make me cranky.

8. If you're concerned about anything that goes on in the post, please PM me.

Again, this post is for people with rape fantasies. If you don't have rape fantasies, skip this post. If you are insanely curious, you may read the discussion, but keep quiet. This post will be heavily modded as needed.

Be awesome. I know y'all can do it.



Here are some ideas for discussion. These prompts aren't the full extent of what can be discussed, nor are they required discussion. They're just some topics that those of us with rape fantasies probably think about a lot.

- Reconciling rape fantasies with feminism. Recognizing the culture that fosters these fantasies.

- Dealing with romantic/sexual partners. Do you bring the fantasies into the bedroom? How has your partner reacted?

- Dealing with the shame and guilt inherent in having the fantasies.

- Is it okay to express these fantasies through art or writing? Does writing rapefic help you explore your fantasy? In doing so, are you contributing to larger rape culture? How do you walk that line?

- The different types of rape fantasies. There are ravishment fantasies that play off old seduction tropes. There are graphic rape fantasies that include force and violence. There are bondage fantasies, sleep fantasies, etc.

- Rape fantasies are often associated with rape survivors. What about people who haven't been raped? Are rape fantasies more understandable for one than the other?