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Love of All Types

This is inspired by a comment angearia left on my post about Spuffy love in S7.

I had a few people reference a book, The Five Love Languages, that detail five different ways of receiving love. Emmie's comment related these to Buffy's feelings for Spike in S7, and how she expresses them. I decided this called for some illustrations.

Images and massive Spuffyness below the cut. :)



From this website, the five love languages:


1. Words of Affirmation



2. Quality Time



3. Receiving Gifts



4. Acts of Service



5. Physical Touch






Comments

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angearia
Nov. 18th, 2010 06:31 pm (UTC)
PERFECT ♥

What I love about this is that for most of the season Buffy only performs Acts of Service. She's so emotionally shut down, she fixates on this. But throughout she'll still slip in some physical touch like in "Potential" and she gets closer to Words of Affirmation with her "I believe in you, Spike" talk.

It's only by the end when she finally opens up that she starts expressing love in all the ways available to her.
gabrielleabelle
Nov. 18th, 2010 06:35 pm (UTC)
*nods*

I was trying to stick to Chosen for the images, but she actually didn't really do any Acts of Service for him in Chosen. The rest of the season, hell yeah (And why isn't the MASSIVE SPUFFY of The Killer in Me ever squeed about in fandom?).

I think it's interesting that when Spike doesn't need anything anymore, Buffy turns to other, more traditionally feminine, ways of expressing her love.
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pamsblau
Nov. 18th, 2010 06:42 pm (UTC)
THAT"S OUR SHIP!!!SO MUCH LOVE! So much tenderness, so much feeling. I melt everytime i see them.♥Wonderful post!
gabrielleabelle
Nov. 18th, 2010 06:55 pm (UTC)
Our ship is an awesome ship! I loves it. :)
blackfrancine
Nov. 18th, 2010 07:00 pm (UTC)
I love this. I especially like that you include scenes from the Killer in Me and LMPTM--because I think, for Buffy, defending others--protecting--is one her most natural acts of love. It's the method of loving expression that comes easiest. And I think it gets overlooked because it's an expression that isn't made to Spike. It's made to others on Spike's behalf--usually, I think, we can assume he doesn't even know she's making those expressions.

This is why, I think, Spike's defense of Buffy in Empty Places is so moving. He's doing for her what she's been doing for him all season--defending her. And that's why, when Buffy hears about that defense, she's so touched. The first moment that breaks Buffy out of her self-pity stupor is when Spike says that he beat up Faith for her. It's because Spike's talking Buffy's mother-tongue of love languages.

Anyhoo. Your picspams are splendiferous! ♥
angearia
Nov. 18th, 2010 07:07 pm (UTC)
This is why, I think, Spike's defense of Buffy in Empty Places is so moving. He's doing for her what she's been doing for him all season--defending her. And that's why, when Buffy hears about that defense, she's so touched. The first moment that breaks Buffy out of her self-pity stupor is when Spike says that he beat up Faith for her. It's because Spike's talking Buffy's mother-tongue of love languages.

YES. So much. I love that scene. Especially when both Faith and Spike try to stare each other down with arms crossed, then Spike just hits her. LOL SPIKE ILU <3

usually, I think, we can assume he doesn't even know she's making those expressions.

Right. We can also assume that Spike doesn't realize her Acts of Service signify love--he doesn't realize her being the Slayer is about her being "full of love", even for him (he can easily say she's helping him out of duty). So it makes sense that he'd be insecure when she only starts showing him all the other ways right before the end of the world. Oh, Spike.

Edited at 2010-11-18 07:09 pm (UTC)
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evangelin1202
Nov. 18th, 2010 07:15 pm (UTC)
This is so beautiful! So much love that I can feel it pouring out of your spam and damn, do I need it!

gabrielleabelle
Nov. 18th, 2010 07:21 pm (UTC)
Glad you enjoyed! :)
pocochina
Nov. 18th, 2010 07:48 pm (UTC)
oh these are absolutely beautiful.
gabrielleabelle
Nov. 18th, 2010 09:10 pm (UTC)
Thanks! :)
hello_spikey
Nov. 18th, 2010 07:55 pm (UTC)
*squee*
gabrielleabelle
Nov. 18th, 2010 09:10 pm (UTC)
:)
ellievanna
Nov. 18th, 2010 08:09 pm (UTC)
Hi! I've been lurking around your journal a while, 'cause you write amazing meta and great fic and do interesting polls and obviously beautiful picspams too! And you seem like a generally awesome person. :)

This picspam is wonderful and my shippy heart expands with love for things like this, so thank you. ♥
gabrielleabelle
Nov. 18th, 2010 09:12 pm (UTC)
*waves*

Glad you've been enjoying! :)
zanthinegirl
Nov. 18th, 2010 08:11 pm (UTC)
So much love for season 7!
gabrielleabelle
Nov. 18th, 2010 09:12 pm (UTC)
Indeed. I so adore the S7 Spuffy. :)
angearia
Nov. 18th, 2010 09:15 pm (UTC)
There's something about those caps for Acts of Service from "Never Leave Me". Buffy's expression is so hardened. I think people see that and think it supports that she doesn't care about him.

But I think of it more like Buffy's approaching a wild injured animal. It reminds me of the way people devote themselves to helping rehabilitate an injured lion or a wolf, you know. You don't go in there with smiles and giggles. You go in fully aware of how in danger you are, but you do it because the other's well being is paramount.

As much as Buffy says getting close to Spike will help her understand the First, I think it's evident that helping Spike was first and foremost about helping Spike.


Disclaimer: Not calling Spike an animal in an insulting way. I don't think animals are inherently less than people.

Edited at 2010-11-18 09:17 pm (UTC)
gabrielleabelle
Nov. 19th, 2010 12:07 am (UTC)
*nods*

She's very...gruff? Stern? No-nonsense. Even when they're having their couple of heart-to-hearts in NLM, Buffy doesn't soften. Not until she rescues him in Showtime.

I think in NLM, she's in tough love mode. After all, Spike had been at the point of suicide in the last episode. He'd hit his rock bottom. Buffy's still working out her own feelings about him, about the situation. And now the First pops up and starts being all evil. It's a turbulent time, and Buffy's not at all sure she can trust Spike. She has to keep her fight face on, especially knowing that Spike can be triggered.

Despite all that, though, she helps him and unreservedly expresses her belief in him. That means the world to Spike.
shipperx
Nov. 18th, 2010 10:10 pm (UTC)
Lovely pic spam. They were pretty together.
gabrielleabelle
Nov. 19th, 2010 12:08 am (UTC)
Very, very pretty. :)
witchway
Nov. 18th, 2010 10:22 pm (UTC)
just just just

amazing.
gabrielleabelle
Nov. 19th, 2010 12:08 am (UTC)
Thanks! :)
tranquil_ity
Nov. 18th, 2010 10:51 pm (UTC)
Beautiful. It's things like this that keeps my Spuffy-love strong. Thankyou :)
gabrielleabelle
Nov. 19th, 2010 12:08 am (UTC)
:) Glad you enjoyed! :)
ladyofthelog
Nov. 19th, 2010 12:51 am (UTC)
I LOVE THIS. Acts of Service, man. The love, I'm feeling it.

Also, I think this is the best Buffy picspam I've seen. Really gorgeous. :D
gabrielleabelle
Nov. 19th, 2010 02:50 am (UTC)
Oh. Thanks! I like to futz around on Photoshop from time to time. :)
molly_may
Nov. 19th, 2010 03:22 am (UTC)
I heart S7 S/B so much! SO MUCH! And this picspam is just another reminder of why.

There's a scene in "Selfless" where the First is dressed up in it's Buffy suit and sitting with Spike, comforting him with empty platitudes and fake kindness, and in the episode it's contrasted with the real Buffy stomping in and being very short with Spike, snapping at him that he needs to get out of the basement. Spike sadly replies that he doesn't have anywhere to go. A lot of S/B fans seem to hate that scene, because it's like only the fake Buffy can be nice to Spike, but whenever I watch it I always think about how the next time we see Spike, Buffy is moving him into Xander's apartment. It's a genuine act of love and caring, as opposed to the meaningless words given by the First-as-Buffy.
gabrielleabelle
Nov. 20th, 2010 02:34 am (UTC)
Yes! So much word!

Buffy is often very short with Spike at the beginning, but she still helps him. Her harsh exterior is part of Buffy's isolation arc in S7. It's notable that she starts softening significantly towards Spike after Showtime (SMG's FACE IN THAT SCENE KILLS ME) even while she's hardening towards everyone else.
prophecygirrl
Nov. 19th, 2010 04:37 am (UTC)
It's glorious! Thank you so much.

How do people not see this???? How can they resist this story???
gabrielleabelle
Nov. 20th, 2010 02:35 am (UTC)
I know! It's fantastic! :)
ever_neutral
Nov. 19th, 2010 06:16 am (UTC)
OMG! ::is dead:: There are no words. Heh.
gabrielleabelle
Nov. 20th, 2010 02:35 am (UTC)
I will accept your Acts of Service. :)
gwtwscarlett
Nov. 19th, 2010 07:54 am (UTC)
Thank you for the biggest warm and fuzzy that ever warm and fuzzied :)) <3

On a slightly different topic, maybe you've discussed this before, but how do you interpret the "I know you never loved me, but you made me feel like a man" speech from The Gift? I suppose it's a reference to the events of Intervention, but I see Spike as someone who only ever cared about being loved and not about feeling like a man. That moment is kinda weird and out of character in an otherwise perfect episode.
mikeda
Nov. 19th, 2010 10:36 pm (UTC)
Its not "made me feel like a man", its "treat me like a man".

Here's my reading of that mini-scene:

(begin quote)

SPIKE: I know you'll never love me.

Buffy pauses halfway up the stairs, turns back to look at Spike.

SPIKE: I know that I'm a monster. But you treat me like a man.

(end quote)

What's I find interesting here is that Spike is talking about being treated "like a man" as being a good thing. As being something he actually wants. And that this suggests that he perhaps is starting to think that he doesn't really WANT to be a monster.
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francy_m79
Nov. 19th, 2010 01:03 pm (UTC)
Lovely picspam!

Before the comics, I was 1000% convinced that Buffy loved Spike romantically. The comics have been undermining that belief, but I still try to hold onto it. Posts like this help!! :)
gabrielleabelle
Nov. 20th, 2010 02:39 am (UTC)
Yay! Happy to help! :)
dragonflylady77
Nov. 19th, 2010 01:14 pm (UTC)
THIS IS &hearts
gabrielleabelle
Nov. 20th, 2010 02:41 am (UTC)
:)
devilscrayon
Nov. 19th, 2010 03:26 pm (UTC)
Gorgeous. Never have I loved a fictional character like I love these two, separately and together!
gabrielleabelle
Nov. 20th, 2010 02:56 am (UTC)
:)
joans_journal
Nov. 19th, 2010 06:09 pm (UTC)
I love this. *happy spuffy sigh*
gabrielleabelle
Nov. 20th, 2010 02:56 am (UTC)
:)
misskittydu34
Nov. 21st, 2010 04:33 am (UTC)
Beautifully made ♥
gabrielleabelle
Nov. 22nd, 2010 02:16 pm (UTC)
Thanks! :)
pingback_bot
Feb. 5th, 2011 07:35 am (UTC)
*****YAY! IT'S SHIPPY DAY!!!!!*****
User blackfrancine referenced to your post from *****YAY! IT'S SHIPPY DAY!!!!!***** saying: [...] ss herself. She professes her love to Spike again and again and again in every language of love [...]
upupa_epops
Sep. 20th, 2011 06:25 pm (UTC)
You make me want to watch s7 again, and I don't even like s7 that much...

*inner Spuffy shipper awaken and excited*
gabrielleabelle
Sep. 21st, 2011 01:20 am (UTC)
:)
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